Lykke Li gives advice on love and how to survive heartbreakBy Lucas Dean Fiser | September 17th, 2014 | No Comments »
Lykke Liâ€™s in a car, itâ€™s sunny in LA, and she isnâ€™t sure sheâ€™ll ever love like sheâ€™s loved before. â€śI Never Learn,â€ť her broody and spaciously poetic third album is what we called to talk about, and curled in her Swedish accent is a feisty emotional honesty, which not only enables her to backtrack through relationships and music with strength and clarity, but gives off a rawness that enables her heartbreak to sound pure.
â€śI was forced to reveal myself and love myself. All those things, accepting yourself, and listening to yourself, and also admitting to not knowing,â€ť she said. â€śThatâ€™s really okay too.â€ť
The lyrics of her latest album, although dark and eccentric, which has always been her style, pop with a sense of hopefulness describing the difficult break-up. Itâ€™s as though thereâ€™s something trying to crawl from the soil of her ballads and into her listenerâ€™s ears.
â€śYou know I think as in anything, darkness is always searching for light and life, so I want it to survive, everybody wants to survive,” said Li who returns to Colorado for a second time this year to headline Denver’s Ogden Theatre on Sept. 25. “Thereâ€™s light at the end of the tunnel and the only way to get that is to get through it.â€ť
See photos below of Lykke Li’s opening set at Red Rocks in August.
Her biggest lesson while writing this album: Love isnâ€™t an end all be all. Love conquering all, thatâ€™s a clichĂ©, she now believes. The most important thing is to love yourself too. But other times, love and life is just about letting yourself go. Itâ€™s sometimes, like her musical process, better left in the wind.
â€śThatâ€™s the struggle, because I cannot let go, thatâ€™s why it takes so long to finish. I never strive for perfection, but sometimes you do too much and screw up. So I guess, I donâ€™t knowâ€¦â€ť This is where Li begins to talk fast, her English getting lost in the curvature of an accent. â€śI take it so far sometimes and think, you know, I am about to die. So I have to let go. The strive to perfection drives me to insanity and ultimately the only way to survive is to let go.â€ť
Although Li didnâ€™t put an album out for three years, she stayed busy recording for the soundtrack, â€śThe Fault in our Stars,â€ť and starting her fashion line with & Other Stories, and somewhere in between that sheâ€™s been able to stay true to herself.
â€śI am just a women trying to figure out everyone and how to live and how to love,” she said. “I am just searching like everyone else. I happen to be really interested in art and music, but that is not who I am.â€ť
The lyrical wisdom in Liâ€™s latest album may come from her heartbreak, and it may also be due to the fact that sheâ€™s only 28 and willing to be honest with herself. Li will never be perfect and neither will her music, but that isnâ€™t the point.
â€śInstead of fighting the world just swim. Just enjoy every moment, and in writing a record you are so eager to get in and hear the end. The art of life, enjoy every moment.â€ť
Lucas Dean Fiser is a published fiction writer, poet and holds an M.F.A. He writes freelance for The Denver Post, a staff member at the Cannabist and is regular contributor to Reverb.